In January, as every year sees its beginning, I often look back at the year I just lived and cannot believe its already in the past. To me it feels like 2017 just began! 2017 was the busiest and most difficult year of my life. It was the happiest year of life as well! 2017 brought so many good things.
On January 14th, 2017 my boyfriend surprised me with the greatest promise. We lived in two different cities; me in Sudbury, him in Sault Ste. Marie. This meant that if we wanted to see each other, a 3-hour drive would have to take place first. Don’t get me wrong, we each made that 3-hour trip ALL the time, we barely ever went 2 weeks without seeing each other.
On this particular day, my mom, sister and I were listening to music, enjoying our Saturday evening. My dad told us he was going over to visit one of his friends but in reality Eythan had driven to Sudbury without my knowing and asked my dad out to dinner to ask for his blessing in marrying me. About 10 minutes after my dad came home I got a phone call from Eythan. He sounded weird and nervous. At the end of our quick conversation I told him he should drive to Sudbury right then to come see me (I was joking of course).
He said, “Okay, I’m getting in my car.”
I said, “Okaaay.”
He said, “I’m leaving my drive way.”
I said, “Okaaay.”
He said, “You better answer the door when I get there.” And this is when I got a little suspicious.
I said, “I will…”
He said, “Okay bye.”
I said, “Bye…”. As soon as I hung up the phone I went to go check the front window to see if… DING DONG. I knew it was him and ran to the front door as fast as I could, I flung it opened and didn’t even see the ring box in his hands. I was so excited to see him I gave him a huge hug. When I finally stepped back and saw the beautiful solitaire diamond in the box. I was shocked.
“Jazmin, will you marry me?”
I said, “YES”
And so, the year began with planning. Lots and lots of planning.
In February, I took my entourage (my mom, sister, 2 best friends and aunt) wedding dress shopping. I couldn’t wait to finally be the bride trying on beautiful gowns and I quickly found the perfect dress.
We picked August 19th, 2017 as our wedding date.
Wedding planning is very fun! Eythan thankfully didn’t have too much input into what our wedding looked like so I got to make all the decisions! I loved choosing wedding colours and flowers. Pinterest became my best friend as we spent all our time together.
I designed, ordered and sent out my invitations. Booked the ceremony and reception venues. Booked my photographer, Risk Media
I wanted long, light pink bridesmaid dresses but I let my bridesmaids choose their own style. The groomsmen wore navy blue pants and vests.
Choose songs for the ceremony and first dance.
Both my mom and mother in-law put on wedding showers for us. Both were beautiful and I felt so blessed and humbled by the generosity of my family, future family and friends.
We found an apartment to move into together once we were married. Eythan moved into it early since he had already moved to Sudbury from the Sault for work. (We ended up giving this place up since we decided to go to Arizona in September for my treatment).
Coming into the summer I felt on top of everything and couldn’t wait for August 19th.
I couldn’t wait to marry Eythan. Our love story had been a very short one. We started dating in October of 2016 which means that we only dated for 3 months before getting engaged! Yes, we are crazy. No, I don’t regret a thing. We first met 5 years earlier at Aush-Bik-Koong bible camp but didn’t get reconnected until the fall of 2016. Once we started dating I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I never ever thought it would be this way for me. I take FOREVER to make decisions, but this decision was so easy. Eythan is a very hard worker. He is a fitness coach and absolutely loves it. He is very good at what he does and is very knowledgeable about how to train. He is very loyal and smart and caring. He adds so much joy to my life. I cannot wait to grow with him and love him more and more everyday, for the rest of our lives. He encourages me to trust God everyday, in good and bad circumstances. I love him with my whole heart.
By mid July, I still had no clue what we were going to do for wedding decorations. I had an idea about how I wanted it to look but I had no clue how to put it all together. By this point I didn’t really care too much either, I just wanted to be married. Eythan’s mother and sisters put together a stag and doe for us in Sault Ste. Marie. It was so fun! We had a brain and brawn theme (since I’m the brain and Eythan is the brawn hehe). There was a huge raffle and lots of games. At the stag and doe, Linda, one of Eythan’s relatives was chatting with my mom about the wedding. She is a wedding decorator and once she found out we didn’t have the decorations figured out, she offered to do everything for free! She was a God send for sure.
The week of the wedding was so fun. Out of town relative were arriving, last minute details were coming into place. Bachelor and bachelorette parties were complete. I thankfully barely avoided a very bad flower fiasco (2 days before the wedding and no flowers were ordered). However, it all worked out and everything was beautiful.
The wedding day was perfect. The morning was spent at my house with all my bridesmaids getting ready. My friend did our makeup, we ate snacks, listened to music and I enjoyed being with my best friends and family.
Early that morning before I went to get my hair done, I was sitting on my spot on the couch with my dog, Sadie. My mom made me a coffee just the way I like it and we had such a nice time. My parents felt sad that their baby was moving out and growing up and were filled with so much joy that I found someone to love and cherish me. I felt a little bitter-sweet. So ecstatic to be marrying Eythan and starting this new chapter in my life as a wife. But, also a little sad to be moving out and leaving my parents. I was thankful to have one last morning of what I knew as normal for so many years.
The day proceeded in a complete blur. We were announced husband and wife, took some photos and enjoyed a beautiful reception. Linda, my decorator, did everything! Due do my busy schedule all week, I didn’t even have time to drop by the reception hall to see her progress. I trusted that she would do a beautiful job and on the 19th when I finally got to the hall I couldn’t believe how she transformed the room. It looked picture perfect.
Leading up to the wedding many people gave me small tidbits of advice. Something that I heard over and over again was this; in the middle of the reception, while nothing is really going on, take your husband, sit down and just look around and soak it up. I’m so happy I took the advice and although the wedding was perfect I was so relieved when it was over! I was finally married, I was finally a wife and I finally had my wonderful husband.
We went on a beautiful honeymoon. We spent a week on the Oasis of the Seas cruise and ported in Labadee Haiti, Falmouth Jamaica and Cozumel Mexico. We ate amazing food and a ton of it and loved spending all of our time together since we hadn’t spent a whole entire week together before, just us. As soon as we got home from our honeymoon is felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders! I loved every bit of wedding planning and being a bride but I was so happy to just be a wife now.
1 Corinthians 13 talks about love. What it means to love one another and the importance of this. I often have to remind myself what true love looks like and pray that I continue to intentionally contribute to the building of a solid marriage based upon what the bible says marriage should look like. To not become complacent.
I love being married! I didn’t really understand the challenges of marriage before I was married (obviously), but I sure thought I did. MARRIAGE IS NOT EASY! But, it sure is fun when you’re figuring it out with your best friend.
2017 was an amazing year and I cannot wait to see what God has in store for Eythan and I in 2018!
1 Corinthians 13 (ESV)
The Way of Love
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.
13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.